Do we really? Or the right question is, “To which extent do we hate nepotism?”
Well, the answer is pretty simple! We hate it to the extent where we are not the beneficiary from the circle of nepotism. Is this answer arguable? Yes, but only for those who are complacent with what they have, and No, for those who have been enjoying these privileges for many years now.
Food for thought:
Do we hate nepotism because we don’t get to choose the side of the coin or the coin didn’t toss to the side we chose?
There has been a recent debate in my country, India, which isn’t getting any closure. The debate is about nepotism and it sparked when the underrated Bollywood actor Sushant Singh Rajput committed suicide. The thought of his death is excruciating, yet I believe that the fickle-minded people should have talked more about mental health which is one of the major reasons for suicide and not nepotism which was ignited by Team Kangana Ranaut’s video on nepotism right after Sushant’s death.
How justified it is to blame nepotism as the cause of someone’s suicide rather than mental health? It sure feels bad that a person might have lived if they weren’t the victims of nepotism, but that’s the way of life and if you wish to change the way of life my friend, it’s a long road!
Let me define Nepotism for you, “Favoritism shown to relatives or closed ones by those in authority or power.” Now think, is it bad? Wouldn’t you choose a friend of yours when the first thought comes up to start your own company even when you know that the other person is more eligible to be the co-founder?
Well, if nepotism is really the termite then people like Ratan Tata, Kumar Mangalam Birla, Mukesh Ambani, Anil Ambani, or Aditya Chopra, must be stripped off their titles as they are the results of nepotism, yet they are one of the greatest businessmen this world has ever seen. And it is possible that someone else might have done a better job than these gentlemen, but who should have decided that? The people who are in power or the one on the receiving end? We obviously know the answer, because they are the ones who created it, they know it better, and they can trust someone they know more than anyone else.
We often forget, how would it feel if our parents didn’t give their houses and businesses to us in inheritance and rather our parent’s secretary gets to keep it? Now, that would have been a problem, right? How can someone else enjoy the privilege which you were always entitled to?
It sounds simpler and valid when we relate with such theory: “Your boss would mostly hire you if they know you, rather than any random person who applied online. Why? Because your boss knows you, trusts you, and they can teach you whatever they want.”
It is absolutely normal to feel bad when the bias caused due to nepotism ruins your plans, but probably that’s what you would have done too.
A business runs on profitability and when it is about money then nothing else matter. When Karan Johar launches star kids, he does because people are crazy about young star kids who have millions of followers on Instagram already, or when Doug McMillon became the CEO of Walmart, he did because he understood the business better than anyone else in the Walton family.
What people fail to understand is that nepotism exists because for some reason they were inexplicably obsessed with Taimur Ali Khan even before he learned to lift a finger by himself. And this exists worldwide, especially where people are obsessed with the Royal babies in the UK or the Kardashian kids. There’s no proven research as to why the Royal Family gets special treatment, but the answer lies in the question.
It is about the one in power!
But it is indeed sad when nepotism which is the way of life is related to a person’s behavior. For example, after Sushant’s death, Sonam Kapoor made an arrogant statement on enjoying the privileges of nepotism. Now that’s egoistic nature and not nepotism and this is how privileges and money can ruin your thoughts.
It is a popular and understandable sentiment to hate nepotism because we don’t get the privilege and it sure feels worse when someone like Rahul Gandhi gets to be the President of INC and you don’t.
We only hate or don’t like things that we don’t get to cherish because it is personal when it comes to life, growth, money, and power. At some point in life either we have been the result of nepotism or maybe we have stripped off someone because we chose someone less deserving. And blaming someone’s success or failure on nepotism isn’t right because just one opportunity doesn’t change anything and the consistent efforts in that job do. If the person who got the job is doing great then it is because he could do it and you might be better at doing that job, but then the choice is yours, either crib about the reality or try again!
But who am I to say, I am just The Shameless Indian who penned his opinion because I believe that there is always one more side of the coin and today by unveiling that side, I might have answered a lot of questions for some people and for those I didn’t;
It isn’t about nepotism. It is about which side of the coin you are!
P.S. Sushant Singh Rajput was way above what we have been thinking!
The Shameless Indian 